In a couple of days I will be 72 years old … WOW, I am old! At this age, I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over my life just a bit earlier.
One of my all-time favorite books is “Ten Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Went Out into the Real World” by Maria Shriver. When I purchased the book my immediate thoughts were … come on Maria, the real world … what would you know about the real world? Maria grew up a Kennedy and married one of the biggest movie stars of all time! That aside, it got me thinking: What are some things I wish I would have known before going out into the real world? So, here are three of mine:
- Life isn’t fair. My mom’s favorite come-back line. What did she know? I remember thinking that I would grow up and show her that those who work hard and do what is right are the real winners. Well I guess she showed me! Life isn’t fair! Too many times the bad guy wins. People play favorites. Good people die young. Good people get really sick. Good people get dumped on every day. Even President John F. Kennedy realized this fact of life when he said: “Life isn’t fair. It never was and never will be!” It’s hard to accept but we should still strive to do our best, work hard, dream big, and above all … do what is right! Life is hard! And do it definitely isn’t fair. That fact really hurts like hell sometimes. But if you focus on what is within your power to change for the better, you can be happy even if it isn’t fair!.
- Pleasing others gets you nothing. Most of the time, people liking or disliking you has nothing to do whatsoever with sensible thought. Some people will dislike you, no matter how well you have done, and others will love you unconditionally no matter what you have done. We tip toe around life by doing things in order to please others, not because it’s what we believe in. We go through days thinking about how other people might be judging us. How are these pants going to make me look? What will my friends think if I spoke out? Are those people talking about me behind my back? Just remember that it’s better to be loved by a few people you care about than to be liked by everyone. Forget about worrying about what other people might be thinking about you. They aren’t concerned about you. They are way too busy worrying about what you and other folks think of them.
- Mistakes and failures are actually good. Failure is not the end of the world. People seldom care that you fail … they have their own challenges and lives to worry about. Success in life comes from not giving up despite mistakes and failure. It comes from being persistent. Negative experiences, mistakes and failure can sometimes be even better than a success because it teaches you something totally new, something that success could never teach you. Whenever you have a negative experience ask yourself: where is the opportunity or blessing in this? One negative experience can – with time – help you create many very positive experiences. Remember that first time you tried to ride your bike … you fell off, bruised your knee and cried a bit. But you got up, brushed yourself off and got on that bike again and eventually you learned how to ride it. If you just use that same perseverance instead of giving up after you fail, you will learn and experience more success. Remember that mistakes are proof that you are at least trying! Folks are always telling me that we learn from our mistakes. Well if that is true … I decided that I should soon be a genius with all the mistakes I have made in life! Mistakes are your greatest teachers!
My three lessons aren’t the positive things anyone would like to focus on, but they are true. These were lessons that I learned after getting into the real world. We need to be aware of the bad things in life and choose to stay positive through tough times. It’s sometimes hard to do, but you be a whole bunch better with positive thoughts. That’s why I say that life is worth living no matter how expensive or painful the lessons I’ve had to learn. Life is good and I know that I can still make it better! I’m so glad that I learned these life lessons. I hope you can live and learn too!
Just saying …