“Life is not the way it’s supposed to be … it’s the way it is. The way you cope is what makes the difference.” `Virginia Satir
Each morning I wake up, I have a choice to determine the direction that I want that day to take. I can go into default mode and wake up worried and fearful about the things I have no control over … or I can make the conscious decision to choose the kind of day I want to experience. Many times the events of the day happen so quickly that, we get caught up in the drama and feel that we don’t have a choice. Things just happen. Bad things do happen to good people. No one gets through this life without struggles! Everybody has battles to fight … everybody! No one’s life is perfect!
But, even in the midst of confusion … we do have a choice in how we react to our circumstances. No matter what happens, I get to choose how I react to it. I will admit that this is very difficult to do when life smacks you right in the face. But if we intentionally set the tone for our day BEFORE we jump into it … it will be a heck of a lot better. Really … that’s the truth. Personally I find that the first 15 minutes of the day are the most important for me. It’s sort of like putting the train on the right track at the beginning of the day … rather than trying to clean up a derailed train later in the day. It’s so easy to get sucked into being negative … remember that fact!
Case in point: This morning I got up, read through my emails, send out a few “how are you” and “thinking of you” emails before even getting out of bed. I love letting people know how important they are in my life. I was feeling pretty happy while getting ready for work because they were were giving me a good-bye luncheon at work today and I was also feeling grateful that tomorrow is my last day of working at Edgecombe Community College. I will miss them, but the prospects of new adventures is pretty exciting. When I got to work, I received a terrible disheartening phone call. I have been completing some major repairs to the home I own, getting it ready to sell. The repairman informed me that last night’s storm took off shingles from the end of my house and, flooded the ceilings, causing the ceilings and insulation to fall into the floor in two of the bedrooms. Sheetrock, insulation and rain water all over the two bedroom floors. I will not lie … this really knocked me for a gigantic loop. I was three weeks from having it ready to sell. I am not going to lie … I cried a few tears.
Immediately a phrase that my Ken used to quote came to my mind. “Remember Phyllis, this too shall pass. It’s not going to affect your eternal salvation.” Then I thought crossed my mind that it might, if I don’t stop swearing at this moment!
All things come and go. Actually … change is the only thing that is constant in our lives. … And I have had to deal with plenty of change! I know that what may appear to be a mountain in front of me, will soon be a molehill behind me. It always does. Knowing that “this too shall pass” does enable me to get through anything. This knowledge has gotten me through so many things in my life. I have been blessed.
I just have to keep the faith. When scary things happen to me, I remember the faith I have in my loving Heavenly Father and my Savior, and that everything will unfold as it should. I am a child of God. My challenge is not to deal with what may appear as a humongous problem … my challenge is to find the blessing in the situation. If you look hard enough you might just find a gift in what’s happening around you.
There are two things that I have going for me: 1) I am surrounded by people who support me. 2) and I realize that I am not alone.
Contrary to popular belief it does not work to just put on a brave face and soldier on. I speak from experience with that statement. I’m very stubborn … just ask Kimbo! Sometimes we (talking to myself) have a false idea in our heads of what it means to be strong. Accepting help and allowing our family and friends in to help is not a sign of weakness! It takes courage to let people in … it is humbling. I love the quote by Lea McEwan: “Generosity is not just a gift to be given but a gift to be received.”
This is my support group … and they are amazing. Today they hit me full force with love and support when I was having that mini pity party. They reminded me of how tough I am, what I’ve already gone through and just how blessed I am. They helped me see the beauty and possibilities of life. They will be there for me with their “you got this attitude” … pushing me to the top of this big mountain. I will not be on this climb alone. Not only do I have an awesome support group, but I have the knowledge that I have a loving Heavenly Father and
Savior walking beside me … sometimes even carrying me! I could not have functioned during so many difficult times in my life without that knowledge. I am so thankful … and I am so blessed.
My suggestion to you … those of you who are going through your own trials … is to put these ideas into action in your own life. Let me know how it works for you. You and I are walking the same path here in mortality. We are all just trying to get back home to Heavenly Father. We have to support each other. That’s definitely what it’s all about. The difficult times we go through will start to seem less significant when we compare it to everything that is going right in our lives. If you need me … just give me a call … hopefully will not be in the midst of my own personal rough day..
By now I bet that you have figured out that this blog posting is aimed straight for my heart, mind and soul … pointing my finger at myself and reminding myself that my attitude will either lift me up … or bury me in a pit of despair! I know that when I take the time to stop and count my blessings … my problems seem not as severe as I originally thought. Believe me when I say … being GRATEFUL helps tremendously. Remember that when you count your blessings a world of abundance opens up to you. Gratitude is the quickest path to happiness and peace of mind. If what you focus on grows … then please let it be gratitude.
Just focus on moving forward. Even if you are still a long way from where you want to be … you are further down the road from where you were.
Just saying …